Ambivalence: Simultaneous love & hate
Ambivalence is a psychological state where the person bears a mixed feeling of love and hatred, pleasure and disgust or similar diagonally opposite feelings towards a person or a set of objects. Ambivalence is characterized by a state of mixed feeling where the person experiences uncertainty or indecisiveness.
Attitude of the person has relatively lesser impact upon this state of ambivalence. The behavior during this state is relatively un-predictable and are much dependent upon the mood. This may be perceived as pleasant and unpleasant at the same time.
This state of ambivalence is within the conscious awareness of the perceiver and he/she may voluntarily try to resolve this state of cognitive dissonance by deliberate efforts.
The desire to maintain the preconceived notions has much deeper impact upon ambivalence. Moreover, the fear of repetition of unwanted events may force the perceiver to take the unipolar stand. In his attempt to gain uni-polarity and reduce dissonance, the perceiver might distort the reality in accordance to his personal beliefs.
Ambivalence in a relationship creates an emotional roller coaster for the couple involved. To hold two different poles of facts within conscious awareness is difficult, but this brings and individual to a higher level of wisdom and much closer to a just solution. This enables the individual to see different conflicting evidences within himself. Mortal beings generally get caught in their emotions, needs, desires and wants and color everything of the outside world to fit their inner parameters.
This is really worthy to look within and explore the underlying emotions. There lie different levels of ambivalence and the solution lies in the practical materialization of the underlying conflict in the desired and acceptable fashion which ensure the proper adjustment and the success of individual in his environment.
Conflicts within, hampers happiness,
Look within, avoid conflict, get happier!